Refocusing My Family – Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God
As the daughter of a Focus on the Family executive, Amber Cantorna grew up homeschooled by parents who seemed to model the group’s conservative Christian values. In 2012, after struggling for years with the fear of rejection, Amber came out to her family as gay. That transparency cost her everything. She says, “I did not dream that I would be married to a woman and that my dad’s position at Focus would divide me from my family rather than keep us focused on it—but that’s what happened.”
In Refocusing My Family. Amber recalls a happy childhood in a family that outwardly seemed perfect, but a dark side emerged as she struggled under the weight of perfectionism, reputation, and appearances. Amber tells of her journey of self-discovery and exposes the dark truths of how the values of Focus on the Family tore her family apart. Ultimately, her struggle was transformed into freedom when she boldly stepped into her identity and discovered that the true love of God surpasses all.
“Literally millions of us trusted James Dobson and Focus on the Family to guide us in raising the ideal Christian family. Amber Cantorna pulls back the curtain and reveals the real-life realities behind Focus’s books, purity rings, and radio shows. I hope that today’s young parents who are part of the evangelical community will allow her story to guide them into a better way of parenting, so they can discover a more authentic way of being Christians—and human beings, too.” —Brian D. McLaren, author of The Great Spiritual Migration
About Amber Cantorna (Denver, Colorado Author)
Amber Cantorna is an author, speaker, musician, and coach with a passion for helping LGBTQ people through their coming out process. As the home-schooled daughter of a 30-year executive at Focus on the Family, she grew up entrenched in the values that the organization embodies, and her conservative Christian parents worked hard to protect her from the outside world. But when Amber came out as gay at the age of 27, she shattered the perfect persona that her family strove to uphold. As a result, she lost everything, and her world forever changed.
Now, five years later, Amber is married the love of her life and dedicates her time to writing, speaking across the country, and sharing her story in order to bring hope to other LGBTQ people of faith and their families.