Your Caregiver Relationship Contract – How to navigate the minefield of new roles and expectations
Have you started picking up groceries for your aging parents while doing your own shopping? Do you go to the doctor with your loved one to be the second set of ears? Does the hair on the back of your neck stands up when you’re on the phone with mom, because you feel she is unsafe?
With caregiving comes a change in relationship: We are no longer just a child, a spouse, or a friend. And this means that our “relationship contract” with the caree must change. These “contracts” are most often unspoken, making it difficult for the people involved to identify their needs and responsibilities. Caregiving changes the everyday lives of the caree, the caregiver, and their circle of loved ones.
In Your Caregiver Relationship Contract, Hallisey, discusses the delicate and difficult conversations caregivers must have with their loved ones in order to ease the strain, on both sides, that comes with evolving duties and relationships. She uses examples from her own life, as well as many of the clients she has worked with. Her book aims to bolster these ever-changing roles and provide guidance in navigating the caregiver contract.
About Debra Hallisey (South Jersey Author)
In 2015 life changed for Debra Hallisey. She became responsible for her disabled mother after her father’s death. As she took on the roles of financial adviser, caregiver, social director—as well as her continuing role as daughter—she found herself asking “what do I do?” and “where do I start?” She brought her 25 years of experience as a consultant building and enhancing corporate training programs for Fortune 500 companies in the United States and Canada to the problem and, in the process, learned how many other people are in a similar situation caring for a parent, a sibling, a spouse, or significant other.
She has used the knowledge she has gained to develop AdvocateforMomandDad.com The site offers practical advice for caregivers and lessons learned from others on how they handle challenges on issues such as legal, financial, insurance, and caregiving.
A caregiver knowledge expert and an advocate for older adults and their families, Debra is a Certified Caregiving Consultant™ and Certified Dementia Practitioner®. She holds an M.A. in Leadership and Supervision and is currently taking additional training to become certified as a Certified Caregiving Educator (CCE) and a Certified Caregiving Facilitator (CCF).